So worn out and it’s almost time to start the second shift of my day job (parenting).
Decided to do morning pages over at 750words. It’s not longhand, but it also doesn’t give me hand cramps, so. 🤷♀️
A letter to my past self circa 1997
Dear Kimberly,
I’m just going to jump right in.
Remember E’s cute boyfriend and how you noticed she seems to not be dating him anymore and you think that’s kinda sad? Don’t be sad. YOU’RE MARRIED TO HIM NOW. I mean, you’ll marry him in 2009.
You’ll have a beautiful kid with him in 2016. The kid has long eyelashes and says delightful things. You had him later than you expected but he’s worth the wait, I promise.
Hey guess what neighborhood you live in starting in 2011? W! That’s where rich people live, you say? Well, two things: 1. It’s actually where a broad range of middle class people live and 2. you definitely would think of the household you live in by 2022 as rich. Y’all could eat Lunchables and Fruit Roll-ups and drink Capri Sun Every Day if you wanted to. (But you won’t, it would create way too much trash.)
You have a PhD (2021) and your job is to read, write, and talk to librarians. ON THE INTERNET. I know, right? Pretty sweet gig.
There’s a lot of scary stuff going on in the world right now (2022) - global health stuff, political stuff, war stuff, climate change stuff (that’s what we call global warming right now because it’s more accurate). Also, some family illness stuff. I know that doesn’t feel new, and it’s not, but it’s still a lot.
And yet in spite of those difficulties, on the micro level, your life is AMAZING.
Just wanted to let you know.
Love, Kimberly
🔖📚 Read As a Queer Author, I Thought I Had to Come Out Before My Books Did.
Excellent piece about the dangers of outing anyone before they’re ready. Nods to Becky Albertalli & Kit Connor, who both experienced this. 💔
What feels like your people?
I have a lot of friends, but the circle of friends I think of as my people is much smaller. If I make a list, it’s probably maybe 10 or so people right now, though the circle has porous boundaries.
This morning I sent something Austin Kleon wrote to a friend with the note “This seems like something you’d appreciate.” Sometimes my friends send me things that remind them of me.
Sometimes there’s an obvious reason, like when anyone sends my sister red panda stuff or me mermaid things.
But my favorite times are when it’s about a vibe. That feels to me like accessing the ineffable core of a relationship that I always imagine you can only get at after a very intense initial period of friendship, unless you happen to be friends with a literal horse, in which case it happens instantly because horses just understand you.
There’s a sort of distance that I think makes this kind of thing easier. My dearest friends all live far away. I think it facilitates finding this kind of thing. I want to be in the lookout for more opportunities to do it for my most inner circle, my innest circle? My spouse, my child, my household of origin.
Do your people have vibes that give you shortcuts to letting them know you’re thinking of them?
🔖 How to Write a Novel (Or Anything, Really) with ADHD
Lots of helpful ideas for people who, like myself, struggle to finish writing long things.
🔖 Read Instagram Makes Parents Feel More Clueless Than We Really Are by Elisabeth Sherman (Catapult).
Great piece. Every time I think I’m parenting M wrong, if I just listen to him & follow my intuition, I’ll beat anything influencers can tell me.
Thanks to Ransom on Lower Decks, I now notice every time Riker has his foot up on furniture on TNG. 🖖🏻
📺💬 On MythicQuest…
Ian: Poppy, lines are so Web1. You don’t wanna be in Web1, do you?
Me: I do! I love Web1!
It’s Sunday morning and I am back to being overwhelmed by meal planning, how’s your day? I should say that M & I made banana bread and pumpkin bread this morning, so that’s lovely.