January 14, 2024
Finished reading: Love Requires Chocolate by Ravynn K. Stringfield 📚
Full review coming later, but I loved this confection of a YA romance from Ravynn K. Stringfield, my creative nonfiction for academics teacher. A Francophile Black American girl falling in love with Paris and a cute Parisian. Highly recommend.
January 12, 2024
Book Review: The Frame-Up by Gwenda Bond
The thing about Gwenda Bond is that she’ll take your favorite microgenre or trope, mix some magic in, and give you a whole new story to enjoy. Which is exactly what she does with The Frame-Up. She takes an art heist story and adds in magic powers that make people good at their roles: mastermind, hacker, and more.
But Gwenda’s website tagline for a while was “High Concept with Heart,” and even more than the magic, the heart is what really makes The Frame-Up shine. This is a story about a daughter dealing with the fallout of betraying her mother and learning how to be right with herself whether or not her mother ever forgives her.
Here’s the publisher’s description:
A magically gifted con artist must gather her estranged mother’s old crew for a once-in-a-lifetime heist, from the author of Stranger Things: Suspicious Minds.
Dani Poissant is the daughter and former accomplice of the world’s most famous art thief, as well as being an expert forger in her own right. The secret to their success? A little thing called magic, kept rigorously secret from the non-magical world. Dani’s mother possesses the power of persuasion, able to bend people to her will, whereas Dani has the ability to make any forgery she undertakes feel like the genuine article.
At seventeen, concerned about the corrupting influence of her mother’s shadowy partner, Archer, Dani impulsively sold her mother out to the FBI—an act she has always regretted. Ten years later, Archer seeks her out, asking her to steal a particular painting for him, since her mother’s still in jail. In return, he will reconcile her with her mother and reunite her with her mother’s old gang—including her former best friend, Mia, and Elliott, the love of her life.
The problem is, it’s a nearly impossible job—even with the magical talents of the people she once considered family backing her up. The painting is in the never-before-viewed private collection of deceased billionaire William Hackworth—otherwise known as the Fortress of Art. It’s a job that needs a year to plan, and Dani has just over one week. Worse, she’s not exactly gotten a warm welcome from her former colleagues—especially not from Elliott, who has grown from a weedy teen to a smoking-hot adult. And then there is the biggest puzzle of all: why Archer wants her to steal a portrait of himself, which clearly dates from the 1890s, instead of the much more valuable works by Vermeer or Rothko. Who is her mother’s partner, really, and what does he want?
What I loved
The art, honestly. Great descriptions of art and art periods. Dani is a character with a clear love and respect for the art she forges. The heist crew vibes: everybody’s got their role and while Dani is working with her mom’s estranged team, there is still love there between herself and Mia and Elliott, the two other members of the team close to her age. The intense interiority: always seeing inside Dani’s heart, her desire for her mother’s approval, her regret about her past actions. Most of all, Dani’s sweet dog Sunflower.
What I need to warn you about
Not much here, except there are some really garbage parents and their adult kids are dealing with the repercussions of having been raised by such rotten people.
What I wanted more of
I mean, I would read a lot more heists with this crew, so… Sequels?
Who should read this
People who like fantasy set in our world. People who like heists and secrets. People who like paintings. People who like reading about fancy rich folks. People who like reading about Kentucky. People who like border collies.
Book: The Frame-Up
Author: Gwenda Bond
Publisher: Del Rey
Publication Date: February 13, 2024
Pages: 352
Age Range: Adult
Source of Book: ARC via NetGalley

January 11, 2024
Friends of the Internet, timelines move too fast for where my head is at right now. I’m not abandoning them but I hope you know that if something big comes up and I don’t weight in, it’s 99% likely it’s because I didn’t see it, not because I’m staying silent on purpose.
And, the answer is ...
Following Alex’s lead, I’m answering some questions.
Best sandwich? I don’t like having to choose but I really like a good roast beef with provolone on a roll. But there are many other excellent sandwiches.
What’s one thing you own that you really should throw out? .
What is the scariest animal? Aside from humans, grizzly bears.
Apples or oranges? Apples, preferably honeycrisp.
Have you ever asked someone for their autograph? I have but I think only at the Buffy the Vampire Slayer Posting Board Parties.
What do you think happens when we die? I like to believe that whatever we each imagine will happen to us is what will happen, that we create our own afterlives. I’m personally planning to be a ghost and haunt my kid and descendants, lovingly.
Favourite action movie? Raiders of the Lost Ark.
Favourite smell? Baking.
Least favourite smell? Rotting flesh.
Exercise: worth it? Yes but it can be hard with chronic illness, if you have chronic pain or post exertional malaise. If you have those, you have to be choosy with how you do it.
Flat or sparkling? Sparkling.
Most used app on your phone? Firefox.
You get one song to listen to for the rest of your life: what is it? A random track from Brian Eno’s Music for Airports.
What number am I thinking of? I don’t know, but I’m thinking of 7.
Describe the rest of your life in 5 words? Underslept reading heart-full mom.
Now, give us your answers.
Finished reading: The Frame-Up by Gwenda Bond 📚
I thought this was going to be a romance book with a heist, but I was mistaken. It’s a heist book with a romance! It’s beautifully done. Full review coming soon. The Frame-Up releases February 13. Pre-order it now!
January 10, 2024
🍿 Watched The Intern.
Another Nancy Meyers film. I really liked this. It made me cry. I think it was a little tricky because it seemed both to critique and support Anne Hathaway’s character’s intensity as an overnight CEO, but I guess that’s a good approach, not moralistic.
🍿 Watched Heartburn.
This one is written by Nora Ephron & directed by Mike Nichols, and it’s mostly very sad.
But the cries it made me cry were mostly happy cries because Meryl Streep’s character clearly loved her kids so much and I love my kid so much, too.
January 9, 2024
🔖 I’m genuinely thrilled for the Gen Zers and others who have the energy for a weekly everything shower, but this chronically ill Xennial is pretty sure it would use up all of her spoons.
If you like analog tools, you probably want to sign up for @cygnoir’s analog meetup.
🗒️ Week Notes, 2024 Week 1: Beautiful dragons in crystal forests
I do so like when other people, like @cygnoir, write week notes, so I thought I’d give it a try.
On New Year’s Day, my little household made our way over to my parents’ house for chili and board games. We played Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza, a cute party game. We also played Chutes & Ladders: Marvel Super Hero Squad, because that is the one game M will play by the actual rules.
We watched Beware the Groove, a documentary my brother made about the making of The Emperor’s New Groove. It’s super cool and I’m proud of him. If you like The Emperor’s New Groove, animation, or movies in general, you should try it out.
M was back on campus Tuesday for a day camp before school officially started on Wednesday. Tuesday evening, I attended a webinar about Quaker education. M attends a Quaker school and I really hope to work there, so this was a very valuable session for me to attend.
Wednesday, I had the last team meeting for my postdoc. The report we’ve been working on for a long time is still in progress. My colleagues will be finishing it. (This is a useful example of the impact of funding: the people who wrote the grant had originally written my postdoc as a 3 year postdoc, but when the program officer told them they needed to cut costs in their proposal, they cut the third year. And now there’s no one whose job it is to work on the project full-time anymore, so it has to take a back seat to other projects.)
I’ll be first author on the report whenever it’s actually published, so that’s nice.
Thursday was a quiet day. M resumed his musical theater dance class, which he started only because a friend was doing it but now says he really enjoys.
Friday was another quiet day. Which is good, because Saturday was a big day!
We went to the NC Chinese Lantern Festival. It’s always beautiful, but this year was extra magical because in honor of the Year of the Dragon, there were many beautiful dragons hanging out in crystal forests.

There were also a lot of Monkey King-themed lanterns.
To get a sense of the whole experience, take a look at the online program.
Sunday was another quiet day which was literally sorely needed, as my body didn’t like me asking it to do so much walking around at the festival, so Sunday was a high pain day. (It’s also possible there was some unexpected corn flour in something I ate.)
And that’s week 1 of 2024!
🍿 Watched It’s Complicated. Happy to have watched. It seemed to me mostly to be about how a manbaby doesn’t want to contribute to his new family and tries to get his ex-wife to take care of him now that she’s an empty nester and won’t need his help. Spoiler: it doesn’t work.
January 7, 2024
High pain day today.
Finished reading: Never Been Kissed by Timothy Janovsky 📚
Another delightful romance given to us by Timothy Janovsky, whose little details feel so calculated to please me. This time: The Great Movie Ride (RIP) figures in a key scene.
🎮 Finished The Legend of Zelda (NES).
A classic, of course. I’ve never been able to get very far before, but I played it with Nintendo Switch Online and made liberal use of suspend points (aka save states) and walkthroughs. I had fun and finished both quests.
January 5, 2024
I like @ayjay’s idea of reflecting on what you’ve read weekly or monthly.
🔖📺 Watched Pokemon Concierge and read Pokémon Concierge’s Psyduck Is for the Millennial Pokémon Fans.
I’m a Xennial: Pokemon was more for the kids I babysat than for me, though I did get into the card game my freshman year of college.
Psyduck has long been my Pokemon soul mate, with her constant headaches and love of water. And this article articulates why Psyduck appeals to me even more in Pokemon Concierge.
January 4, 2024
🔖 Read The Web Renaissance Takes Off by Anil Dash.
Sign me up.
(I’m trying to make a web-related pun here about Lucrezia Borgia, but it’s just not happening.)
January 3, 2024
🔖 Read Ambient Co-Presence by Maggie Appleton.
This sounds really nice. My favorite locale for physical ambient co-presence is a university library, which I use a Winter Whale sound video to replicate at home. I use a few co& working sessions via a Mighty Networks or Zoom to do this, too. I wonder what the role of services like Focusmate or Flow.club is here.
Gonna be updating my about page soon. If you were going to choose something to include on my about page, what would it be?
Finished reading: Get a Life, Chloe Brown by Talia Hibbert 📚
I’m late to this party but happy to finally be here. As sweet and hot as the romance here is, it’s the portrayal of fibromyalgia that makes my heart sing.

January 2, 2024
🔖 Austin Kleon’s list of 100 things that made his year is excellent, as always.
January 1, 2024
Responding to
:For me, the sweet spot for a gift is when you can use it to show that you’ve paid attention to what the person needs or cares about. Not because you want to be smug or feel good about yourself, but because as the receiver of a gift, it feels good to be seen.
Most years, I only give gifts to family, which certainly makes this easier. In recent years, I also pick an annual formula, for example, everyone gets a book or everyone gets a T-shirt.
This year, everyone got a donation to something they care about plus a token to unwrap.
- My brother got patronage of Defunctland and a Defunctland brochure.
- My sister got a symbolic adoption of a red panda through the World Wildlife Fund and a DVD of the Spirited Away stage show.
- My brother-in-law got a donation to the Order of the Good Death and an occult-themed cocktail recipe book.
- My mother got a donation to the American Cancer Society and a T-shirt with a meme she likes on it.
- My father got a manatee adoption from the Save the Manatee club and a Jeopardy! card game.
Each of these gifts says:
- I noticed something that’s important to you.
- I noticed something you enjoy.
There’s no perfect formula for gift giving, but I find using it as an opportunity to say “I see you” is a useful principle.
🔖 Read
by Matthias Ott.How about, from now on, we make every year the year of the personal website – and make the internet human, creative, personal, and weird again?
I’m down.
Leigh Bardugo encourages people on New Year’s Day to Begin As You Mean to Go On, meaning to spend 15 minutes doing something you want to do more of this year.
So I spent 15 minutes journaling with Esmé Weijun Wang’s Rawness of Remembering journaling course.

December 31, 2023
🍿 Watched Lady Boss: The Jackie Collins Story.
A fascinating documentary about a fascinating person.