May 2, 2024
๐ Read The films that gave us unrealistic expectations about what makes a ‘home’.
…I too had one of those houses I had always dreamed of. But it wasnโt by design… It was by living my life and creating a home that served the needs of that life.
Me: goes to Target Ah, it’s so nice to be out in the world.
April 30, 2024
๐๐ Read Tackling Balletโs History of Anti-Blackness as a White Woman.
The infinitely kinder cousin of ignorance is curiosity.
A great short piece that’s about cultural humility as much as anything.
Now that the offer letter is signed and everybody at the school has been notified, I’m happy to share that next year I’ll be the librarian at my son’s elementary school!
April 29, 2024
๐๐ Read My Sonโs Love Life Is None of My Business, Except It Is by Yukiko Tominaga (Electric Literature).
This is a lovely piece about love and dealing with our children growing up.
April 28, 2024
Y’all got me ready for “I cry a lot but I’m so productive” but I was not prepared for the resonant truth of “I’m so depressed I act like it’s my birthday every day.” ๐ต
Finished reading: The (Fake) Dating Game by Timothy Janovsky ๐
Whew! Timothy Janovsky wasn’t kidding when he said this was his steamiest book yet! Grief and heartbreak serve as the flashpoint for this sizzling romance set against a Supermarket Sweep-style game show.
April 26, 2024
My friend Josh died last week.
My friend Josh died last week. He was only 32 and had already given the world so much. I’m angry on the world’s behalf at all the decades of Josh it should have had and won’t.
We weren’t close but I love(d) him. When I announced to our improv team that I was pregnant, Josh started walking in front of me with his arms out whenever we were at the theater together, pretending to speak into an earpiece like he was my bodyguard.
One time when I was working at UNC, I bumped into Josh running the campus cypher. I told him I’d just come from a conversation where I told someone my flow (as in, rapping) was passable. Josh, himself an incredible hip hop artist, scolded me. So I revised my self-conception: my flow is good enough for comedy.
I sometimes fantasized about running across Josh at the city cypher after a night out at the movie theater around the corner from where the cypher happens. I wanted to introduce him to W.
Josh was an educator and whenever I came across research on hip-hop pedagogy I would send it to him and he always made me feel like each time I did it I’d given him an exquisite gift.
When he was 25 and I was 35, Josh asked me what advice I would give my 25-year-old self. I have no idea what I told him. I do remember being floored by the wisdom he showed in asking the question.
I don’t have a conclusion to this.
April 25, 2024
Finished reading: You Should Be So Lucky by Cat Sebastian ๐
Full review coming soon but y’all, this is so great. It’s out May 7. Olivia Waite says if you only read one romance this spring, it should be this one, and she’s right.
April 24, 2024
New bio!
Mom. PhD. Once and future school librarian. Freelance academic. Citizen of Romancelandia. I manage multiple chronic illnesses. I love books and games. ๐โฟ
April 23, 2024
๐ Read The Messy Places Are Where the Learning Happens: On Being a Beginner by Michelle Boyd (Digits and Threads)
A great reminder to deliberately be a beginner sometimes.
April 22, 2024
Finished reading: The Witch Queen of Halloween by Kresley Cole ๐
This is a super fun romance novella, inspired by horror movies. Might become an annual Halloween re-read for me.
April 21, 2024
Finished reading: The Player by Kresley Cole ๐
A con artist falling in love with her tech billionaire mark? Sign me up.
April 20, 2024
๐๐๐ Read Mothering and Writing Are Both Undervalued Labor, so How Do Women Do Both? .
An excellent excerpt from the book The Mother Artist: Portraits of Ambition, Limitation, and Creativity.
April 19, 2024
๐๐ Read An Oasis in the Desert: Why Libraries Are the Best Places to Write.
I love to write in a library carrel. More than once I’ve considered getting one for our home office. I wonder if my favorite local library branch has them. I haven’t noticed. Next time I’m there, I’ll check.
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“One of the gifts of being a writer is that it gives you an excuse to do things, to go places and explore.” Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life
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“…publication is not all that it is cracked up to be. But writing is.” Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life
April 18, 2024
Finished reading: The Master by Kresley Cole ๐
April 17, 2024
Over here fantasizing about spending my own money on ModCloth and eShakti dresses, as well as having a place to wear them. ๐
April 16, 2024
๐๏ธ Month Notes: March 2024
March was a full month!
Our local historic cinema shows retro films. W & I went to This Is Spinal Tap together. It turns out it’s still hilarious.
We went as a family to My Neighbor Totoro. Totoro is Mโs favorite movie. It was very special to see it on a big screen. I noticed some little things I had never noticed before, like how Mei echoes everything Satsuke says. โฅ๏ธ Little Sisters โฅ๏ธ
I often focus on the part of a movie that resonates with me, sometimes to the point of having seen a different movie than everyone else. Some time ago I read a blog post or article that I now can’t find about how My Neighbor Totoro can be read as a story about an eldest daughterโs responsibilities. With Satsuke and Meiโs mom being sick and their dad being at work a lot, this really resonated with my experience growing up and now all I see is a movie about a big sister who is parentalized and cares for her little sister. It’s a beautiful movie and if you read it this way, one of the sweetest bits is how Mei shares Totoroโs magic with Satsuke.
We saw Adam Gidwitz speak at a local indie bookstore. I had a catch up call with a colleague from when I did my postdoc. That was lovely and if I’m smart, I’ll schedule more catch up calls and coffee dates.
I had a preliminary Zoom interview for the school librarian job at Mโs school. I felt good about it and it went well enough that I was invited for an on-campus interview.
W and I saw Murder on the Orient Express at Playmakers Repertory Company. The set was a gorgeous art deco thing and the way they created the train was with these metal frames on wheels that the cast and crew could move around to indicate individual compartments or larger areas. The play itself was super fun. It’s a Ken Ludwig adaptation of the Agatha Christie story and definitely had a few moments where Ludwigโs voice popped up to remind you that this was by the same guy who wrote Lend Me a Tenor.
From March 21 to 29, we were traveling. We flew to London, where we stayed in a flat near the Portobello Road Market, ate delicious buns, saw Matilda the Musical in the West End, and played at St. Jamesโs Park. Then we went to Cork, where we saw the beautiful rolling hills of Ireland on our way from the airport to the city center and explored the very cute city center including a toy store, an old-fashioned Irish sweet shop, and the English Market. It wasnโt very long to have gone so far, and because of how we did the travel, four of our nine days were travel days. I did learn a lot about travel, mainly that itโs worth the extra money for direct flights if you have it.
While we were gone, I developed a nasty productive cough, so when we got home I skipped our usual extended family Easter festivities.
And that was March!
Finished reading: The Professional by Kresley Cole ๐
I finished this in just a couple of days. Definitely read the info on the author’s website before picking this one up.
April 15, 2024
Finished reading: Munro by Kresley Cole ๐
The heroine in this one is a time-traveling Transylvanian knife-throwing carnie so, you know, she’s awesome.
One of the cool things about kids is that some are obsessed with stuff like Pokรฉmon and some are obsessed with stuff like cats, while still others are obsessed with ancient Rome and yet others are obsessed with sea shanties. And some love more than one of these or something else entirely.
April 13, 2024
Finished reading: Wicked Abyss by Kresley Cole ๐
This is a banger of a Beauty and the Beast retelling, with an ending I radically prefer to the Disney version. Highly recommend.
๐๐งถ Read This Is Your Brain on Fibre by Michelle Woodvine (Digits & Threads).
A great article that explores a lot of the reasons fiber crafting is good for our mental health.