Posts in: Creative Mothers


Raising Us Wrecked Her Career But My Mom’s Thriving In Her Second Act


My mom was just hitting her second act stride when leukemia knocked her down. I hope that as the treatment side effects are better managed, she’ll be able to get back into it.


Can Motherhood Be a Mode of Rebellion? | The New Yorker


An amazing essay in conversation with Angela Garbes’s new book, Essential Labor.

a person can get paid more to sit in front of her computer and send a bunch of e-mails than she can to do a job so crucial and difficult that it seems objectively holy: to clean excrement off a body, to hold a person while they are crying, to cherish them because of and not despite their vulnerability.

Her husbandโ€™s job provided health insurance and regular paychecks; Garbes writes that it โ€œmay take me a lifetime to undo the false notion that my work is somehow less valuable than his.โ€

It feels shameful to admit that I donโ€™t have the desire to hustle up that same ladder.

Parenthood likewise forces an encounter with the illogic of the market: good fortune means getting to pay someone less than you make to do a job thatโ€™s harder and probably more important than your own.

parenting toward a more just world requires more than diverse baby dolls and platitudes about equality.

She quotes the writer Carvell Wallace, who, after the 2016 election, told his children, โ€œOne of the most important questions you have to answer for yourself is this: Do I believe in loving everyone? Or do I only believe in loving myself and my people?โ€

How can mothering be a way that we resist and combat the loneliness, the feeling of being burdened by our caring?

motherhood has also granted me a chance to see what my life is like when I reorganize it around care and interdependence in a way that stretches far beyond my daughter.


“This is the Book I’m Meant to Write Right Now”


This interview is huge. Life-alteringly huge.

Angela Garbes, who usually line edits as she writes:

I can’t revise an idea, no matter how good it is, in my brain. I can’t revise it if I don’t write it down.

Interviewer Sara Fredman says:

I personally feel torn between feeling like motherhood is the most significant thing I do and that I’ll ever do in my life and also feeling like thatโ€™s a trap of some sort.


Angela Garbes Is Reclaiming Realistic Motherhood


๐Ÿ”– Read Review: A riveting biographer โ€” and mother โ€” works to solve โ€˜the mind-baby problemโ€™.

It’s out! The latest issue of Genetrix, a very occasional newsletter curating stories of creative mothers!

I highly recommend Sara Fredman’s Write Like A Mother newsletter, in which Sara interviews writers who are also mothers. Some bits from the recent issue with Kate Baer resonated especially with โ€ฆ


Portrait of the Mother as an Artist โ€“ Guernica


To think of the mother as artist does not necessitate a conflict, nor does it require a choice between passive domestic surrender or total domestic rejection, although for a long time the world demanded that it did. Such frames only reinforce hierarchies, limit her to merely a fragment when, of course, she is com posed of many pieces.

Craft โ€” a designation used to subjugate many art-making practices that have been the domain of women: needlepoint, pottery, quilt making. With their connections to the home, these mediums have been historically dismissed, supposedly lacking the rigor and intellectual complexity of high art.

โ€œI have drawn my children and painted them endlessly and I cannot distinguish them from my soul…"

she sometimes wonders why an artist must inhabit turmoil or drama to be taken seriously.

๐Ÿ”–๐Ÿ“ The Heartbreaking Ingenuity of the Mother-Writer โ€น Literary Hub

if youโ€™ve read a book penned by a woman with young children recently, thereโ€™s a significant chance it was written while hiding, losing sleep, or using inventive distractions. (Or even all three.)

there is no separation between mother and writer, nor can I tease apart the time I spend tending to my child from the time I spend thinking about my writing, or actually doing it.

Finding Literary Spaces Amid the Intensity of New Motherhood ๐Ÿ”–๐Ÿ“š๐Ÿ’ฌ

This is the website of Kimberly Hirsh. The subtitle of this site comes from the description of woodland goth on the Aesthetics wiki.


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I acknowledge that I live and work on unceded Lumbee, Skaruhreh/Tuscarora, and Shakori land. I give respect and reverence to those who came before me. I thank Holisticism for the text of this land acknowledgement.

We must acknowledge that much of what we know of this country today, including its culture, economic growth, and development throughout history and across time, has been made possible by the labor of enslaved Africans and their ascendants who suffered the horror of the transatlantic trafficking of their people, chattel slavery, and Jim Crow. We are indebted to their labor and their sacrifice, and we must acknowledge the tremors of that violence throughout the generations and the resulting impact that can still be felt and witnessed today. I thank Dr. Terah โ€˜TJโ€™ Stewart for the text of this labor acknowledgement.