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When to call me Dr.

In her week notes, cygnoir links to my post, Political action guidance for the overwhelmed, and credits me as Dr. Kimberly Hirsh.

I appreciate the recognition of my title. I want to say though that I wouldn’t be grouchy to have been credited as Kimberly Hirsh.

I work at a Quaker school. All of us go by our first names, in keeping with the Quaker practice of plain speech and the testimony of equality. This does not make me grouchy.

When I get grouchy is when people insist on using a title and then call me Miss, Mrs., or Ms. Because I have a title and those aren’t it. If I haven’t told you my title is Dr., then I don’t mind you not using it. But if I have and you ignore it, that makes me grouchy.

So. If you want to avoid making me grouchy, here are ways I would like you to refer to me:

  • Kimberly
  • Kimberly Hirsh
  • Dr. Kimberly Hirsh
  • Dr. Hirsh

Any of those are fine. Feel like calling a person Dr. is elitist? Okay! Use my first name or full name.

(There is a whole deal I’m not even getting into here about untitling, mistitling, gender, race, and ethnicity. Explore it if you’re interested.)

Political action guidance for the overwhelmed

Information is my love language and how I like to learn about the world, but I also can start to drown in too much of it and need to scale back. So if you are like me, especially right now when there is A Lot Going On, you might like to do what I’m doing.

For calls to action, I have picked one main issue to focus on (library advocacy) and follow a few organizations dedicated to that work (Every Library, For the People, ALA). For broader concerns, I am reading my local Indivisible group’s newsletter.

I am focused on taking one action daily, ideally one that doesn’t activate my nervous system extra. So today I emailed my senators and told them to vote NO on Vought’s confirmation. (Please don’t at me about the effectiveness of email vs. phone. Or how I should really show up in person. Please trust me to know my own availability and capability.) I also emailed my representative and asked her to demand accountability re: an unelected private person’s access to the treasury.

I am also trying to remember to do other things that keep me grounded, like crocheting and reading romance. I’m trying to find joy where I can.

I hope this has been helpful for you.

Coding Project: Mystery Shack Survey Form

Today’s Progress: Completed the freeCodeCamp certification project, “Learn CSS Colors by Building a Set of Colored Markers.”

Thoughts: This was fun to do and after doing some reading, I’ve realized that for my purposes, I don’t actually need to know how to draw with CSS unless I decide to try and make some wacky layouts with shapes or something. In which case, I’ll review. But in the meantime, CSS is for styling HTML that structures content, just as I feel it should be. This project is not hard but I definitely had to use references sometimes. Which is fine! But slows things down a bit. For this project, the use of a checkbox gave me the idea to make this a Mystery Shack feedback form so I could use Mabel’s rigged “Do you like me?” form.

Link(s) to work: Mystery Shack Feedback survey

What does my body need *right now*?

In Austin Kleon’s newsletter today, he writes about 7 questions he asks himself when he doesn’t know what to do next. (The newsletter has free editions on Fridays and paid ones on Tuesdays.)

At the end of the newsletter he asked his subscribers, “Do you have a question that helps you?”

My response got so big and I liked it so much, I decided to turn it into a blog post, so here you go!

I feel like I have stolen this like an artist in the best way, in that I’ve taken from multiple sources that get at this idea and combined them into something new:

“What does my body need right now?”

I manage multiple chronic illnesses, and the answer to that question can change from moment to moment. I often feel like a brain floating around in a meat cage. So I drop in to my body and see what it needs: water? A nap? A shower? A hug? Stillness? Motion?

Because I can’t do everything I need or want to do, I have to prioritize, and asking this question helps me choose what to do first, what to expend my energy on in a way that gives me hope of sustaining or even increasing my energy for the rest of the day.

Tell Congress to Show Up for Libraries

In the coming days, I’ll be sharing resources for defending libraries in the United States. Today, I wanted to share the American Library Association’s form to tell Congress to show up for libraries.

According to ALA, personalizing messages increases the likelihood that congress members will respond to and act on them. Sometimes, I don’t have the brain power to do a good job of this, so I thought I’d share what I did today.

First, in the first paragraph I made sure to refer to myself as a supporter of the Durham County Library, rather than just saying “my local library.”

Then, I added a paragraph about specific library programs DCL offers that I think will resonate with my congresspeople. I focused on business and Maker/STEAM services.

In the last paragraph, I change “libraries” to “libraries in general and the Durham County Library specifically.”

I hope this is helpful. Maybe the institution you’re going to defend is something other than libraries. If so, see if organizations related to it have similar ways to help you take action.

Take care and stay safe, y’all.

πŸ“š Reading notes on ON TYRANNY: TWENTY LESSONS FROM THE TWENTIETH CENTURY by Timothy Snyder

  1. Do not obey in advance.

  2. Defend institutions.

choose an institution you care about and take its side.

Mine is libraries. I’ll be posting resources on defending libraries soon.

  1. Beware the one party state.

Any future elections will be a test of American traditions.

I fear we’ve lost this already. What can we do? In the face of the challenge to the NC State Supreme Court election especially?

  1. Take responsibility for the face of the world.

  2. Remember professional ethics.

For me, this is about protecting library patrons’ privacy.

  1. Be wary of paramilitaries.

  2. Be reflective if you must be armed.

  3. Stand out.

  4. Be kind to our language.

Make an effort to separate yourself from the internet. Read books.

The effort to define the shape and significance of events requires words and concepts that elude us when we are entranced by visual stimuli.

  1. Believe in truth.

Post-truth is pre-fascism.

  1. Investigate.

The individual who investigates is also the citizen who builds.

Once we subliminally accept that we are watching a reality show rather than thinking about real life, no image can actually hurt the president politically.

  1. Make eye contact and small talk.

You might not be sure today or tomorrow, who feels threatened in the United States. But if you affirm everyone, you can be sure that certain people will feel better.

Having old friends is the politics of last resort. And making new ones is the first step toward change.

  1. Practice corporeal politics.

  2. Establish a private life.

  3. Contribute to good causes.

…one element of freedom is the choice of associates, and one defense of freedom is the activity of groups to sustain their members.

  1. Learn from peers in other countries.

  2. Listen for dangerous words.

People who assure you that you can only gain security at the price of liberty usually want to deny you both.

The feeling of submission to authority might be comforting, but it is not the same thing as actual safety.

It is the government’s job to increase both freedom and security.

  1. Be calm when the unthinkable arrives.

For tyrants, the lesson of the Reichstag fire is that one moment of shock enables an eternity of submission.

  1. Be a patriot.

The point is not that Russia and America must be enemies. The point is that patriotism involves serving your own country.

nationalist β‰  patriot

A patriot… wants the nation to live up to its ideals, which means asking us to be our best selves.

A patriot says that it could happen here, but that we will stop it.

  1. Be as courageous as you can.

EPILOGUE

We will have to repair our own sense of time if we wish to renew our commitment to liberty.

The whole notion of disruption is adolescent: it assumes that after the teenagers make a mess, the adults will come and clean it up. But there are no adults. We own this mess.

In the politics of eternity, the seduction by a mythological past prevents us from thinking about possible futures. The habit of dwelling on victimhood dulls the impulse of self-correction.

The danger we now face is of a passage from the politics of inevitability to the politics of eternity, from a naive and flawed sort of democratic republic to a confused and cynical sort of fascist oligarchy.

To understand one moment is to see the possibility of being the cocreator of another. History permits us to be responsible: not for everything, but for something.

History gives us the company of those who have done and suffered more than we have.

I’ll say that those of us who are neurodivergent and disabled may need to modify #s 12 and 13. But the sense of them is to interact in meat-space with other people. Get to know your community. Show up in more ways than posting online. And even if we struggle to make eye contact or can’t move our bodies in ways that facilitate protest, we can find ways to meet people and show up for them.

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πŸ“š Anticipating My Reading Year 2025

In anticipation of my reading this year, I want to articulate one main goal and a few stretch goals.

My main reading goal is to read one more book than I already have. This means the total for the year is a moving target

Here are some stretch goals, meaning I want to remember to do them but I want them to be low pressure:

  • Read one nonfiction book a month.
  • Stop requesting books from NetGalley that I don’t know anything about except what is on NetGalley.
  • Stop requesting books from NetGalley based on marketing emails they send me.
  • Keep up with new releases from authors I love.
  • Any time I’m in a city with a romance-only bookstore, visit it.

What I want to try to do in 2025

I didn’t want to write this blog post in 2024. For reasons I cannot remotely explain, my gut/intuition/heart wanted to write this in the new year.

So here we are. I’m very sleepy.

I don’t make resolutions. Instead, I choose a word of the year (MORE) and I make a list of things I want to try. Here’s this year’s list:

  1. To make something daily.
  2. To write something daily.
  3. To cook more.
  4. To dig deep into my personal spiritual practices.

Those are the main ones. I’m sure others will pop up. I’ll document them when they do.

πŸ“š My Reading Year, 2024

Like last year, I’m going to share some notes on my reading before popping the full list of all the books I read this year in here.

I read 106 books this year, including 4 picture books/easy readers. As with last year, I overwhelmingly read romance. This is about twice as much as I normally read, which can be attributed to two things: how propulsive so many romance books are, and the fact that I was freelancing and only doing that minimally from January through July. This left a LOT of time for reading. I read two or three books a week in that period. I’ve slowed down to my usual one a week since beginning my part-time school librarian job in August.

I did deep dives into the backlist of Kresley Cole and Sarah MacLean, thanks to the podcast Fated Mates. This podcast has been the greatest influence on my choice of what to read this year. I read a lot of old X-Men comics reading along with the book The Best There Is at What He Does: Examining Chris Claremont’s X-Men. I’m still in the middle of that project, which I started after watching X-Men ‘97. I think I’m going to pick it back up soon.

In just the past couple of months, I have really found my way into fantasy romance. My favorite and the series that really got me here is Milla Vane’s barbarian fantasy romance series, A Gathering of Dragons. It answers the question, “What if grimdark, but romance?” which is not something I thought I would want when I first started this tear of romance reading but actually is exactly the thing I want right now.

Here are all the books I read this year:

Trial of the Sun Queen A Fate Inked in BloodBull Moon RisingSwordcrossedA Heart of Blood and AshesThe Beast of BlackmoorKiller Underwear Invasion!Nobody's Baby But MineA Caribbean Heiress in ParisSome Writer!Heaven, TexasLord of ScoundrelsCaptives of the NightThe Truth About HimEverything I Left UnsaidYou Had Me at Happy HourThe PairingThe VillaThe Lion's DaughterIf I Stopped Haunting YouOperation: Cover-UpHungry BonesKnockoutHeartbreakerBombshellLove, Come to MeWhen We Flew Away: A Novel of Anne Frank Before the DiaryWhen Grumpy Met SunshineThis Will Be FunIndigoHers for the WeekendGentle RogueThe Knowledge GapTender RebelLove Only OnceDaring and the DukeBrazen and the BeastWicked and the WallflowerThe Day of the DuchessA Scot in the DarkThe Rogue Not TakenThe Price of PleasureThe Captain of All PleasuresIf You DesireIf You DeceiveIf You DareThe Devil of DowntownHere We Go AgainThe Prince of BroadwayThe essential X-MenThe Rogue of Fifth AvenueThe Essential X-Men Volume 2Never Judge a Lady by Her CoverEssential X-Men - Volume 1No Good Duke Goes UnpunishedOne Good Earl Deserves a LoverA Rogue by Any Other NameEleven Scandals to Start to Win a Duke's HeartTen Ways to Be Adored When Landing a LordNine Rules to Break When Romancing a RakeThe FamiliarThe (Fake) Dating GameYou Should Be So LuckyThe Witch Queen of HalloweenThe PlayerThe MasterThe ProfessionalMunroWicked AbyssShadow's SeductionShadow's ClaimSweet RuinDark SkyeSuddenly YouThe Kiss QuotientMatildaMacRieveLothairePreferential TreatmentDreams of a Dark WarriorDemon From the DarkPleasure of a Dark PrinceDeep Kiss of WinterYou're Not Fooling Anyone When You Take Your Laptop to a Coffee ShopKiss of a Demon KingDark Desires After DuskDark Needs at Night's EdgeWicked Deeds on a Winter's NightNo Rest For The WickedA Hunger Like No otherThe Truth About DragonsTwo New YearsNacho y Lolita/Nacho and LolitaFox Has a ProblemDreaming of YouThen Came YouThe Charm OffensiveNew AdultA Dish Best Served HotA Proposal They Can't RefuseIn the Case of HeartbreakLove Requires ChocolateThe Frame-UpNever Been KissedGet a Life, Chloe BrownA Touch of Stone and Snow